On Laziness, and the Switzerland of Value Systems

Hey look, it’s another post that I’m not 100% happy with, but I’m publishing anyway because I’m ~conquering my fears~ !!!

 

I’m trying to put together a sort of elevator pitch for why I’ve become so interested in astrology. There are a lot of reasons, but I have a tendency to ramble and would like to speak more concisely — having a couple quick points at the ready would help. One point I always include is that astrology is (relatively) value-neutral: it does not evangelize any particular virtues or moralities.

Personally, I didn’t grow up in a religious household, and aside from a few years in the Bible Belt, I’ve spent my whole life in a secular-leaning-Christian part of my country. Self-righteous proselytizing is rather off-putting to me. I think perspective changes everything, and life contains far too much nuance to fit inside a rigid system of rules and judgments; thus, I’ve avoided most religions and philosophies. Astrology, however, stood out in part because of the broad, general descriptors it used. These generalities may initially seem like a copout to some, but in truth our individual realities are so unique that broad strokes are the only way to accurately describe universal truths.

With this, astrology becomes malleable, adapting to our lives however we choose to structure them. A sort of philosophical silly putty.

I was talking to a friend recently who shares a Mars in Taurus placement with me. She’s curious about astrology, so I told her a bit about how I think the placement presents in me and it seemed to strike a chord with her. Taurus has been described as lazy, and Mars especially: the planet of get-up-and-go doesn’t know what to do with peaceful tranquility. Describing this to my friend, she said, “Yes! I am totally lazy. I feel like I can never admit that.”

The shame she described is familiar. I’ve felt tremendous shame about my own laziness, my whole life, especially because it seems so incongruous with my other traits. Thing is, I’ve been able to hide my laziness well because my desire to do nothing is outweighed by other needs and compulsions (ex. deadlines, my anxious need to plan and organize, or my fear of failure). What astrology helped me understand is that laziness is not a moral failing. Being lazy just means you’d rather not do things — not that you’re irresponsible, unintelligent, or that you lack integrity. There is nothing — nothing — shameful about that.

To be clear, I’m not talking about self-deprecating hyperbole, like shaming yourself for skipping a workout or sleeping in late. And I’m also not talking about illnesses like depression. I’m talking about an innate laziness at the soul level, like always finding creative solutions to problems so you have to do as little work as possible, or spending all weekend at homeThis pervasive desire to not do something, for no real reason other than, “Eh, I’d rather not.”

We think of laziness as needing an excuse. It is not enough to want to do “nothing”, we need a reason. Societally, we value hard work and self-reliance, and especially so in certain philosophies. It is a virtue, we’re told, to honor your duty, to contribute to your society, to do your part. In this light, I understand why laziness is often met with scorn, but that doesn’t make it okay because shame is not an effective motivator.

Shame does nothing but weigh you down, and we would all do well to confront our own shame. Astrology helps me do that by allowing for the nuance of individual experience, and removing judgments to aid self-acceptance. When we can do away with shame and accept ourselves as we are, we feel greater self-efficacy, and in turn, sow greater openness and understanding to the people around us.

Best of all, astrology does not require people to accept the same philosophies to achieve that level of societal empathy.

 

I would like to end this post with something a little more buttoned-up, but my brain has seemingly thrown in the towel today so I’ll just say this: try to meet yourself with curiosity, understanding, and openness. See what happens.

 

 

 

 

 

Published by Charlotte

Growth and accountability coaching, using astrology as the tool. Emotion Math is about studying symbolic equations, but for feelings.

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